Have you experienced healing through BDSM?

This is an invitation to tell your story.

For centuries, power, pain, and pleasure have been woven together in ways we are only beginning to understand remember.

What if pain is a portal?

What if bondage instigates a meditative state?

What if what happens in a scene could be just as healing as what happens in a therapist’s office?

(Skip to the bottom to access the link to share your story).

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I’m writing a book that explores whether BDSM could ever be considered a form of therapy—how it reshapes our relationship to power, dissolves shame, reconnects us with our bodies, and offers a space where we can play out, process, and integrate the things we may not even have language for.

But this story isn’t just mine. It’s yours too.

Have you experienced BDSM as a tool for healing?

• Did submission help you let go of control in a way that softened your nervous system?

• Did dominance show you a part of yourself you had repressed?

• Did pain allow you to access something deeper (grief, rage, catharsis)?

• Did you find safety, trust, and intimacy in a way you never had before?

• Did kink help you rewrite a story that was once attached to trauma?

People who haven’t experienced BDSM are quick to judge those who have. But with access to more education and storytelling from the many of us who know its therapeutic potential, perhaps it will help someone connect to a part of themselves they exiled, and find wholeness rather than shame for their desires.

Where facts can change minds, stories can change hearts.

I want to hear from you.

This is an open call for stories about the ways BDSM has been transformative in your life. These stories may or may not be included in the book or as snippets on this Substack. Your experience could help reshape the cultural conversation around BDSM—not as something to be hidden, but as a practice that offers deep, embodied healing.

You can share:

✅ Anonymously
✅ Using a pseudonym
✅ With the option to opt-in or out of a follow-up interview

🖊️ Share your story here

This book is about moving from shame to acceptance, and proving that the things we were once told to keep hidden in the shadows may actually be the very things that set us free.