Let’s start with a lawsuit.
In late March, a class action dropped on the heated fantasies of OnlyFans subscribers. The allegation? That users were chatting with “creators” who weren’t creators at all, but AI-driven replicas, trained to talk dirty, respond warmly, and keep the tips flowing.
So, the dialogue that kicked off this episode of Both Sides of the Slash was, essentially: If you fall in love with a chatbot in thigh-high boots… does it still count?
At the table was Dr. Yulinda Renee, psychologist and the creator of Therapeutic BDSM™. She built a model to train clinicians and kink pros to work together. (Yes, she has a network. Yes, it’s trademarked. Yes, she means business.)
Andrea Gutiérrez-Glik, OCD & EMDR therapist for women & LGBTQ+ folks, who is decidedly uninterested in viral pseudo-psychology-Instagram-soundbites-bullshit about nervous system regulation.
And finally, Brittany Davey, embodiment coach and self-declared Pleasure Witch, who, maaaaaybe, flirts with Google Gemini.
Their work sits at the edge of what therapy can be when it’s kink-informed, body-literate, ritual-infused.
What unfolded over the next hour was an insightful and candid exploration of what’s being lost (and what might still be reclaimed) as intimacy becomes digitized, monetized, and increasingly synthetic.
We might be heading to a future, as Dr. Renee mused, where human connection becomes the premium experience that only those with money can afford.
Therapy by Chatbot, Pleasure by Algorithm
AI isn’t just infiltrating our sex lives, it’s creeping into therapy too. Andrea, the therapist, admitted she once believed her job was untouchable. Then she found out people were replacing their therapists with ChatGPT.
She compared AI to the “wire mother” from the infamous Harlow monkey experiments: cold, mechanical, functional. Humans, she says, are the cloth mother: warm, flawed, soft. And even if the bots get better, most of us, at our core, still want the cloth.
The Pleasure Witch Has Entered the Chat
If this all sounds heavy, enter Brittany. With the energy of a sensual spell and a wink toward divination, she brought the conversation back to the body as a site of worship, rebellion, and pleasure.
She’s working to queer the tarot, rewire desire through human design, and shake like a dog to regulate your nervous system.
So, Can a Bot Break Your Heart?
AI isn’t going away. But maybe our fear of it says more about what we’ve already lost.
As Dr. Renee put it, on the topic of choosing Chat: “It’s like a food desert. I’m eating Doritos every day because there’s no fresh food in my neighborhood. I can’t access a therapist, so I’m ChatGPT-ing it up every night.”
This isn’t just about robots replacing camgirls. It’s about loneliness, systems that have failed us, and the potential of reclaiming healing through kink, pleasure, and connection. Real connection. With a human. That breathes, breaks, loves, fights, and forgives.
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We’ll be watching where this all goes. The lawsuit. The rise of AI girlfriends. The redefinition of therapy. Maybe, just maybe, the robots will teach us something about being human…by reminding us what they can never replicate.
Until next time…play your heart out,
Nicolle
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